Asking Eric: Brother’s burial plans reject his faith tradition

Dear Eric: My older brother and I were born and raised in a Jewish household. My brother’s first wife was Jewish, his second is not. At a recent dinner with my brother and his wife, she informed us of his planned funeral arrangements, which involve cremation and a memorial sometime in the future. While she told us all of his “wants,” he never said a word. By the way, this is not something that’s imminent.

Also, she is very controlling, and we feel these are her wants, not his. In fact, she said she has spoken with several rabbis, and they told her cremation is OK. I know our rabbi would not agree.