Asking Eric: Brother’s wedding requires nephews be left with stranger sitter at reception

Dear Eric: My brother-in-law (41) is the last of four siblings to get married. He invited the family to his wedding. However, this is a destination wedding, and he said he would like his nephews and nieces to participate in the ceremony, but that the children had to be taken to their babysitters after the ceremony and not be present at the reception.

We have two boys and I’m not comfortable leaving them at a hotel room (or house rental) with a babysitter that we don’t know. My husband is a groomsman. I’m just a guest and not part of the wedding party like my sons and husband. The two other siblings are also married with children, and they are part of the wedding party, but their respective husbands and wives are not.