Asking Eric: Husband’s downward spiral put him and others at risk

Dear Eric: I have been married for 20 years. My husband has been on a downward spiral for the last five years. He bought a motorcycle at that time, and since then goes out every weekend barhopping, and comes home totally drunk.

We haven’t had sex in nine months, (I have begged him) and he refuses to go to marriage counseling or a therapist for himself. I am terrified he will get in an accident or get arrested. I am financially unable to leave him and am ready to hide his motorcycle keys.