Dear Annie: I feel trapped hosting my brother-in-law’s family every Christmas

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for over 20 years. When we met, we had both already lost our parents. During all our time together, my husband’s younger brother has spent Christmas at our home -- even after we got married and he got married, after we moved out of state and had children (now 17 and 20), and after he and his wife had their child (10 years old).